Enough Is Enough: When “Being Nice Is Not Enough” Becomes Another Soft-Target Attack on White Women

The recent “Shine my Crown” piece featuring business coach Glo Atanmo has struck a nerve, not because it reveals anything new about racial conversations, but because it repeats a familiar pattern that many people are simply tired of. Atanmo’s message, delivered through Instagram and amplified in the article, insists that “being nice is not enough” for white women who consider themselves allies. She argues that white women center their feelings, expect emotional pacification, and fail to take meaningful action when Black women raise concerns about racism. She even goes so far as to claim that white women have “stolen [her] words more than robots,” urging her followers to hunt down posts and demand their removal . But at some point, enough is enough already.

What stands out most in Atanmo’s commentary is the way white women are framed as a collective problem — a soft target that can be criticized broadly, stereotyped freely, and blamed without nuance. The article presents her statements as if they apply universally: white women shrink Black women, white women expect their feelings to be centered, white women fail to act, white women copy content without permission. These sweeping claims are treated as acceptable because white women have become the one demographic it is socially permissible to generalize about. If the same accusations were directed at any other group, the backlash would be immediate. But when the target is white women, the criticism is applauded as bold or righteous.

Atanmo’s narrative relies heavily on emotional framing. She describes Black women as constantly “shrinking, pacifying, shape shifting, code switching” to avoid upsetting white people . She portrays white women as fragile, privileged, and unwilling to confront their own biases. She recounts her own experiences in predominantly white spaces, saying she reached the top one percent of income earners yet still felt racial discomfort and microaggressions, ultimately declaring that one of the biggest reasons she left America is because of white people,”

The article also highlights her frustration that when she asked people to advocate for her, the responses came mostly from Black women, prompting her to declare that silent white women should “do the work” now . This framing assumes that white women owe her public advocacy, owe her emotional labor, owe her action — not as individuals, but as a racial group. It is collective responsibility, and collective responsibility is simply another form of prejudice.

The issue is the cultural habit of treating white women as a default antagonist in discussions about race. They are portrayed as emotionally weak, morally inconsistent, and perpetually in need of correction. They are expected to absorb criticism without response, to accept blame without context, and to prove their goodness through constant action. It is a dynamic that has grown tiresome for many, not because people reject conversations about race, but because they reject conversations that begin with accusation rather than understanding.

Enough is enough already. Many white women have gone to extraordinary lengths to appease non-whites, but alas, white women must keep this one thing in mind. You’re still white, and you represent Western Civilization. It will never be enough. Its time white women look out for each other and their own racial family.